feat: Support difference_cols for upsert update detection #9187

Job	Run time
integration-test-s3	1m 12s
integration-test-gcs	1m 15s
lint-and-unit-test (3.14)	3m 15s
cibw-dev-env-smoke-test	27s
integration-test-adls	1m 29s
lint-and-unit-test (3.13)	2m 56s
integration-test	11m 41s
lint-and-unit-test (3.11)	3m 6s
lint-and-unit-test (3.12)	3m 13s
lint-and-unit-test (3.10)	3m 15s
integration-coverage-report	27s
	32m 16s

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